“Out of love and loyalty, we often unconsciously carry the traumas and destructive patterns of our ancestors, which may manifest in our daily lives as unresolvable personal problems and relationship issues. Through the gentle, yet powerful process of Family Constellations, we enter into connection with our ancestors through the energetic ‘Knowing Field.’ Our entanglements within our ancestral family are gently and respectfully uncovered. Family Constellation participants commonly report their experience to be sacred, cathartic, connecting, and profound.
Systemic Family Constellations is a powerful method to help you recognise difficult entanglements, both in your family of origin as well as in your present family or relationship. Solution-oriented interventions and healing rituals bring understanding, which is followed by a resolution that allows love to flow again between members of the family system. Family Constellations is not counselling in the traditional sense.
Systemic Constellation was first developed by the German therapist, Bert Hellinger. In this therapeutic approach, we consider the individual as part of a greater whole – a family system – rather than as a separate entity. The individual behaviours, feelings and attitudes, have to be understood in the context of this larger group. As in any other system, unspoken laws operating within the family guide behaviour that we, as family members, are largely unaware of. Suffering usually arises in a family member when one or more members of the system unconsciously violate these underlying laws. This is done do unknowingly, not out of rebelliousness as one might expect, but out of love – a ‘blind’ love.
The way we bring these hidden, family dynamics to light is to have the client use the help of other group participants to create a constellation of his or her family. The participants, representing members of that person’s family, are positioned in the room in relation to each other according to the client’s feeling in that moment. In this way, we create a living model of their original (or present) family. What we have found is that the feelings and thoughts of the people representing family members are very similar to those of the actual family members. There obviously exists an energy field (‘the Knowing field) that guides the representatives’ movements and allows them to have access to all essential information of the systemic field.
Such constellations are usually carried out with a group of people, where members of the group play the roles of representatives. However, it also works in individual sessions where symbols or “anchors”can be used to represent the positions of family members.
This work uniquely uncovers any destructive family dynamic that may be lingering beneath the surface. But that is not all it does: when those standing in for family members follow their spontaneous movements minutely, not only are family entanglements revealed, but we also discover what leads to healing. Healing movements are supported by the interventions of the therapist, who brings in missing or excluded family-members, suggests new and more conscious behaviours, and finds healing sentences for the family members to say to each other. Finally a new, more natural and healing balance for the whole system can be found, where the love between its members can flow again in a new and more conscious way.
A constellation reveals unconscious collective laws operating within a family system and also helps us to fall in tune with higher laws that take us beyond both the personal and the individual family, and brings us in contact with another dimension, where we all are one. This has an immediate healing effect not only on us, but on everyone who is close to us.